How are your D and GD doing now? Sometimes after an accident it takes a couple of days for things to show up, i.e., like sore muscles, etc. I do hope that they are doing okay.
I'm glad your h is still paying the mortgage and all of your direct debits. Keep an eye on them. Have you done a credit report recently? If not, you might want to think about this. Sometimes a few new credit cards will pop up that the MLCer has gotten and hasn't felt the need to share w/the LBS.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
