MLC H at age 32, maybe single mum with a toddler S

[Maybe]

After reading your comments, I decided to negotiate with H for him to come over less. I texted, no reply. I called later that night coz I got sick and decided to take a sick day from work. S has pink eye, can't go to kinder, original plan was for him to take a carer'S leave day to look after son. So I ringed to let him know I would be home so he did not have to come. He reacted badly, accused me of lying and keep stopping him to see S. I told him I didn't call to fight, and would talk when we are calmer. 30 mins later, We managed to have a productive conversation about his misunderstanding, he apologised.

Today he came to take S out for a few hours. I decided to focus on the positive and thanked him for being able to listen even when he was upset with me. He started to show concern for my sickness, made a doctor appointment, drove me there, and gave me money to pay for the doctor. Wow... haven't had that treatment for 4 months! I also thank him for keep paying the mortgage. He said, I put you in this situation, i need to take some responsibility even if hits me financially. Not saying it's sign that we are out of the wood, but I am glad to know that caring person I know it's still there somewhere, and I was allowed a look in today. I must of been doing something right?

Still having trouble detaching. I care about him a lot. Guess just need to not let his action affect me so much? I am not doing anything else until I read DR again.