You need to determine what made your M vulnerable to an A. You have faults in the M. We all do. If you fail to find the holes in the M, why it was vulnerable to an A, your role in those things and then do something to fix those issues, you will be back here again. I encourage you to dig deep and see what YOUR issues are. Talk to us about those and what you are doing to address them.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing