At a bare minimum, I think you H is having an EA. You need to detach, 180, GAL and go dark. A M man should not be out every Friday night with another W. Period.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing