Cherry, I understand your hurt and anger over the impact of your H's decision on your kids. You are justified to feel all these.

These emotions are telling you that you need to create some boundaries or change some expectations to protect yourself.

Your H may not be a competent or loving dad for a long time. Accept the idea and then let go of your expectations. You are doing what you should be doing. You are there for your S. And so is your family. It will be good if your s can have some other male relatives to look up to as father figures.

I can sense that you're still grieving over the loss of your H and your M. I have realised that the other way out this pain is realy through. There is nothing that will make you stop hurting all of a sudden. The pain may never go away completely. But the intensity will diminish.

If you need to, please take a break for yourself. Take care of yourself and your little ones. You are doing a great job of moving forward and taking care of life.

(((Cherry)))

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.