She wanted to do pre-marriage counseling. I didn't want to go. We have been living together for a couple years and both said we already felt married. I didn't really understand her needs till I read the 5 love languages book. I highly recommend it. It went over basically everything she was trying to tell me. I started counseling about a month ago at first thinking she would go to try to work on things. She wouldn't go so I decided to still go for myself. It has helped for me. I feel like I understand why I acted the way I did at first. I'm continuing to go for me. I want to believe she loves me but it's hard when she says she doesn't and wants out. It's the back and forth that really gets to me.
