I feel like she's drifting apart further and further. We have been married for only 5 months and she acts like we are just dating and the marriage doesn't mean anything.
Maybe you changed immediately following the wedding. Some guys do. They are focused on getting the girl, so they romance her all the way to the alter. After M, they are focused on earning a living, and tend to fall away from some of the things or ways they had before M.
I don't understand about her wanting to attend MC before the wedding. Were you living together and already having issues?
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That's the part that hurts. I know I can be the husband she wants me to be now if she would just let me show it.
What makes you so sure? She gave you a chance for five months and you were focused on yourself until she left you. Now you are back to pursuing again. What's to say that once she goes back to you that you won't fall into your old selfish habits again? Do you even know what kind of H she wants........or is it more your idea of what you think she wants? And if you know, why did you not care enough to keep something precious and nourish it?
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Actions not words but how do I do that when we don't see each other??
Sounds to me like you have been seeing each other plenty. Are you pressuring her? Did you pressure her into M you? Seeing her will do no good if you don't know what to do once you get her back. You are pursuit mode, just like you were before the M. Stop focusing on just getting her back, and start changing the man. Are you on a self improvement plan? Why are you in counseling? Are you doing it to persuade her to go back to you?
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Actions not words but how do I do that when we don't see each other??
At the moment, I kind of think the girl still loves you. I haven't heard enough to decide if she is playing a little, in order to get what she wants from you. It doesn't sound good that your W of five months is saying you are getting a divorce!
She fell for you once, but the second time around you had better do a better job at keeping her......if she is worth it.
Have you read the Divorce Remedy and the links Cadet posted? If not, get it done ASAP.
Keep reading and posting.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
