Well, obviously that is really low. Sounds like he's grasping for control and probably anger gets him his way.

The thing is, as I have grown older and wiser? I am super comfortable with people being mad at me. If I have fault, I apologize. (And I let it go even if the other person does not. This is VERY freeing.) If I did not have fault? Oh well. Not my problem. And that? I drop like a lead balloon.

My advice? We need to become comfortable within ourselves when others are unnecessarily angry with us. It's not our problem. And this way, we don't "teach" someone that they can work us over through anger. Probably this is important for any future r we have.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced