Coly, I agree with he others. Don't beat yourself up. None of us were or are perfect.
Have you sat down with your daughter and talked about what is important to each of you about the holiday season? I second the suggestions to be open to trying things you didn't feel able to do when you were with H.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
