I have to ask some more questions, and in no way do I mean this judgemental. Why was she not on birth control pills when she was a teenager and getting pregnant that many times? Did she ever say why abortion was chosen each time?

Did she ever say if she had wanted any of the babies that were aborted? Do you know how long she carried them? Did her mother 'force' her into the abortions?

What is her relationship like with her father?

Why was she not on the pill (or some type of effective BC method) after having two children with you?

Sorry for so many questions.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!