I believe this to be just another stage of the process. At this point, even though she is un happy and the divorce did not fix this she will still try to focus most of the fault on you and what you did or didn't do. Its not worth trying to counter her or convince her other wise.
Hi LT this is why i am so thankful for this site. If i was looking in my sitch I would tell me the same thing. I need to pull away. NC is the only way I stay sane. She has a long way to go. She does start with the girls but quickly turns it to blame or lies. She is enjoying this. I need to stop feeding her fun.
Originally Posted By: bttrfly
sweetheart you block a private number by sending it to voice mail. SCREEN YOUR CALLS. I'm sorry to say this my friend, and I say it as gently as possible, think of this as a 2x4 wrapped in a fluffy pink blanket: You let that conversation go on way too long. You got sucked in right at this point:
Seems to me she plays on your protective instincts then plays the victim and starts dragging in other people you love. I swear dealing with a MLCer is like handling a live rattlesnake. The only way to survive is not to handle it at all. Drop and run.
hi bttrfly. xox. your 2x4 are most welcome. Just so happens i'm wearing a pink shirt today, so your 2x4 wrapped in a pink fluffy blanket shouldn't leave too many marks.
I would block all private calls but I have many government agencies i deal with that have private numbers. So i have no choice to answer. I am known for answering fast, i wouldn't want to start sending them all to voice mail. Would a quick can't talk then hang up on her be ok? Not letting her get a word in.
as for the drop and run ... i will think of her as a snake and do just that.
As for me being in your Bttrfly spidey sense zone. I am happy to be there.
Originally Posted By: job
She's a miserable, broken woman who doesn't even know how to put her humpty dumpty back together again.
Please do not allow her calls get to you. If you don't want to speak to her, delete the calls w/o answering them. Send emails and texts to the "spam" drawer and just live your life to the fullest and enjoy your girls as much as you can.
Hi Job (((hugs))) good hearing from you. I know how busy you are. yes yes and yes.. hard to disagree with you. I need to look at my sitch as an outsider does. I would give the same advise to others its funny how we don't see our sitches for what it is.
She knows that I won't help her with the girls , that is why i think she is playing me. Knowing I never got closure.
In reality there is nothing to close. It is what it is and I need to get back on track.
Parent teacher interviews today and XW won't be there because the school have asked her to stay away. Not only today but for the entire school year. Not sure what she said to them but clearly they see it as something that can affect the girls. XW told me about it but didn't go into details.
thank you all for your support. I would say I won't let you all down but in reality i can't let myself down again.
I did sleep very well none the less. i won't worry about her next message. I need to worry about what I have to wear at an insurance foundation this Friday. Wine and cheese. so looking forward to it.
