XW showing signs or just MLC script

[Irish M]

Hi Sotto, my answer in red. You may ask me as many questions as you wish :-)

Does she need to earn your compassion, or can you offer that to her regardless? 2 weeks ago I would say no she didn't need to earn it. after her bombardment of texts and emails both blaming me and regret then blaming the kids .. finishing by cold and entitlement ( I know she is going threw a rough time)
I lost my compassion. it changed to frustration. backslide on my behalf but huge wakeup

How does your stance of 'if she offers X, I'll offer Y' serve you going forwards? Sadly she doesn't offer any X. Me serving Y is pointless. I see that now. She wants Z and who cares about what the girls want.

Is there truly nothing to fix? Between me and her. of course i would love a co parenting relationship. As a couple, she killed that.
I appreciate you may not want to reconcile and that's up to you of course. But is there residual pain and anger to fix? Pain yes. her being gone I missed the communication and chance to vent. This is new to me because this is the most communication i've had with her since may 2015. And i see now its pointless. For everyone? For the girls too. they need to express their thoughts to her. I ask them to if they wish to. They chose no contact. I won't force them. They want nothing to do with her.

Do you think you have put yourself in a kind of 'gatekeeper' role here? I didn't ask for this role. She put me in this role because the girls don't answer her.She finds a way to contact me. Since she came out of the dark she has messaged the girls 3 times. they shut her down and asked her to leave them alone. So she messages me, texts, 1 phone call and plays with my emotions. Something that should of happened around BD. We didn't get that chance. she was gone and NC was had. I asked her to stop many times. She says she continues because it makes her feel good. My soft heart for the girls and her left that open door. I need it closed

What would help you 'step away' a little more? well . she just did it. yesterdays first call was it. her voice put me off so much. Her words and emotions were cold. What sympathy i had for her is gone. She will have to do so much. Actions not words to have me give her an inch. I know i'm upset but \i need to remember this and not fall back again

Feel free not to answer if these aren't helpful to you my friend....and I truly want you to know how much I respect all that you are doing for yourself and your girls. I only want the best for you.

Xx