cheesy, you have got to stop letting her rope you in. Remember, your actions do NOT depend on hers. You can have your emotional response all day long and all night. But your actions do not change.
IGNORE all of this. No texting, no replying, no tears and talks, NADA. None of that will serve you and will most likely only confuse you and cause you more hurt. Also, why would you allow her to absolve her guilt? You are feeding her drama by even replying at all. IGNORE IT ALL.
If she keeps texting, calling, crying, whatever, ignore it. If she wants to know why and keeps probing you, you can let her know that you would like some space and that you have a lot to think about. End of convo. Goodbye. THEN IGNORE HER DRAMA!!!
Let her wonder if she has lost you. Let her worry you hate her. Let her think you are okay without her and thinking about giving up! That is fine. She has walked all over you, don't allow her to control you with her drama. Stop acting on your feelings. That is your biggest hurdle here.
2*4 with love, Blu
So you responded and let her rope you in? And now you feel worse? So I have quoted my above reply because I only have the same advice to give. I also think it would help you to reread Sandi's rules and apply them. Every day. This is not only because she has got to realize you are not plan B, but more so than that, cheesyt is causing herself more harm and distress by engaging in anything with her. Drop the rope. LET GO. Take care of you. If she really wants to be with you then she will come around the right way and then you will just know. Until that happens, read above 2*4.
I'm getting harder on you because I know you can handle it and I truly believe this is in your best interest. I also think it's the only shot of her coming back for good at some point!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
