Coffee and spinning

[Sotto]

Hi Coly, I share the regrets about stressing over trivia and that impacting on our daily life. Don't beat yourself up over it, but it is useful learning. I have certainly become more relaxed about 'small stuff' and it does make life a little easier and improves my relationships with others.

Try not to mind read about your H - who knows if he is looking forward to the festive season without 'your stress.' He may be dreading the holidays....there may be things he misses...who knows...

For me, in the first festive season, I didn't want to see anything relating to Xmas. I just didn't feel like doing it. It helped me to think of it less as 'the festive season' and more as a single day - on which I had plans and would get through - and I did - as will you..

Whilst introspection is helpful and it is good to recognise your part, do also try to forgive yourself for not being a perfect wife. We are all flawed, unique and beautiful individuals and that makes the world go round. Try to speak to yourself as a compassionate friend would do - we can all be harsh self-critics at times...

I do hope you feel a little better soon. Do you have any nice plans this week?

Xx