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[LiM]

Is there anything more specific that makes you think there is an OM?
Snooping is generally frowned upon here. Most will advise you not to. For me, I had to know one way or the other. I found incredibly painful things that haunt me to this day even though we are piecing.
I hid a voice activated audio recorder in my W's car because I knew she was going places and likely staying in her car when she got there. What I heard was horrifying. But I feel I had to know.
Only you can decide if its worth it for you to snoop. If she's not having an A and she finds out you have been snooping, it will damage the R. But if she is having A, I think you need to know that. Weigh this decision carefully.