No Rules

[DonH]

Well ginger FWIW I really think this was much more good than bad. It's totally okay if he's not the one. It's a fine line in the early going. If you only accept someone who sweeps you off your feet you may pass up a good one. It's always easier in hindsight to see what you saw in the beginning as a deal breaker. Again, if you jump to conclusions right away you again may well pass by a good one. It really takes several dates and that's what you did. You had to have some fun, right? Would you rather have not gone out at all? I get it's disappointing when he's not the one but unless you think going on several dates and not continuing is worse than staying home and doing nothing, I think it's the right move.

Once again I totally get it. I remember even when married I thought, wow I'm glad I'm married as I've not even met someone I'd want to date. Perhaps that's how it should be? Not that I'd act on it but it was rare I had any attraction. That's still the case, but then it will happen and I know that it still exists and is possible. Been a while but it still can happen. It only takes one.

I'd really plan on dating 20 guys and if it happens on #8 so much the better -BONUS. If not, go onto #9. I know, easy for me to say, but I really do think that if you can lower your expectations and just go with the flow you may enjoy it more. Ficus less on long term and more on having fun.