Hanging on and hoping for the best

[Jug]

If you ultimately want to stay married, follow the rules to a t. If you don't, you will more naturally follow the rules anyway. Get really honest about how well you are following them because they really work but don't when people bend them. It's hard as heck to detach but we all have to. Most of us are in similar situations and some days are better than others. It svcks but it's normal. Hang in there.

As for being nice, I do like the idea of treating them like a houseguest. Don't bend over backwards for her.