I want him to *want* to spend thanksgiving with me, but he's not going to stay here this time. He is going to stay at his mom's house and take our son for the holiday.
. Exactly. He has to want to be with you. And he does not. So you need to do what works best for you. Put yourself and your needs first and act without caring how he will respond. If he wants you, no matter what you do or say he will make it work. Making your actions about you and your son and not about him, will 1. Give you some pride back 2. Increase your worth and value.
She blamed everything on me today and said him getting in trouble was my fault because I said anything. Up until this point she's been in my corner, and now that her son is in trouble, shes turned on me.
Ugh. She sounds like an enabler. Personally, I feel like people need to suffer consequences for their actions or they will never learn. It will be a relative cycle of selfish and poor decisions. I think She should have raised him with better consequences and maybe he wouldn't have made such stupid decisions...(sorry, I'm being sarcastic and mad for you)
But in all seriousness, he sounds like he is asking you to lie for him? Can this have any impact on your career? Is that something you are comfortable with? Would you be swearing under an oath? To do this when there is plenty of proof otherwise does not seem wise.
I *WANT* to not dread this holiday and his visit and feel like we can be nice and just enjoy each others company but the whole family is becoming hostile and its freaking awful.
. Let them become hostile. You did nothing wrong!!!!! Who cares if they become hostile. Good for the, then. Keep doing what makes you and your son healthy and happy.
