My take is that I have seen a lot of guys call getting a life going to the gym, going to social clubs with friends during the day, taking up a hobby or spending a lot of time with the children.
This is all well and good but I found that for most this is within a safety zone. This is all with the WS/WAS in mind, looking at her from the corner of our eye.
It is about her and not about us. I am not saying we should all do it and if you are not ready then don't but if you DO want to then DO IT.
When a woman is fed up I have found her social life increases and not exactly by joining the local sewing group. She will smack on the sexiest dress, empty the perfume bottle, sharpen the stilletos and hit the town.
We on the other hand will go to a burger king. If we do decide to hit the town we will ask for permission in the most ingenious ways and down play it to innocent ridiculousness. I say scr3w that.
smack on the best male dress, splash on the killer after shave, wax yourself to the crack, put on your jordans and get down. No questions, no excuses no nothing. Have fun. Be yourself. Just be sensible.
It can be a club (as I jokingly used as an example) or anything else where she or he may not approve.
I think we're both kind of in the same mindset, just wording it differently. I tend to agree that the gym and parenting are great, but I dont really consider them to be "GAL" exactly.
I dont need to get all dolled up and fancy like to go out and meet members of the opposite sex to GAL though. For me, it's about making a new network that didnt include my ex. It's about meeting new people and trying new things. All of which, I consider "safe" but...maybe outside of MY comfort zone.
It wasnt about my ex, it was about rebuilding my own personal confidence. It also wasnt about temptation or trying to challenge myself in my relationship with my ex - I didnt need that to heal.
