She's a mess and now appears to be trying to have an emotional affair with you behind her PA partner's back, all while keeping both of you on your respective hooks. Not your circus, and I fear she has many miles to go before you'd want to sign back onboard. Keep doing what you're doing, which is kicking a$$.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)