New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[Chris73]

Just found this on one of sandi2's threads"

So, she's running and acting like some girl gone wild, while you are crying, doing flips, and chasing her. You have to change the direction you are going. You become the man she is chasing. Not the husband......the man. You take your focus off her and she gets interested in you. You start living it up and having a life that does not include her nor based around her schedule, and it starts drawing her attention. You find that attractive guy you once were (or better), and she will be attracted to you. You are not concerned if she sees your changes. You are not concerned about what she does. She sees you moving further away. She gets closer. You continue having a fun and busy lifestyle, while treating her as though she is a nosy neighbor butting into your personal life. She can't control you. She can't bully you. She can't use you.

I think I need to read this every day...or maybe every hour!