Cherry. Just trying to get on with life

[Surfer]

Cherry.

You have succeeded not failed! You have protected yourself and you child(ren) when your H's actions might have sent some into a spiral that would have wrecked all of your lives.

I told my Mum today that I am happy now. I am. I miss my old W but I am happy. I don't miss the WW - at all. I really do feel like the luckiest man alive at times. Enjoy my work, my kids, my GAL - no pressure from anyone. I AM happy. I wasn't. I remember looking back such terrible, terrible pain. I have not forgotten it, but I can't feel it any more. As I can't feel it, I can't project it onto my W. I just despise her actions. I don't despise her. I love her, but I don't feel for her the same way. She is lucky to have my company now. Not the other way round. I don't crave it the same. My feelings are changing and your sill in time, they already are. So, have you failed. No. Definitely not. His choices, his actions, you could never have performed those actions they were his. If you can't perform these actions you almost certainly can't stop the WS performance. No you just have to make sure you observe the performance and not join in the performance. To stand on and observe with dignity and take the correct approach. You did exactly that, still are, and will continue to.

Being married to you - there is TED talk on this. A lady. Worth a watch if you can find it.

He'll come back to you. They always do. But you don't want to go back "there". So if I were you, I'd take this space and use it happily. As if he did come back, there will be one hell of a change. Enjoy this space.

Well done - keep going.

Surfer.