She moved out...now the work begins...II

[Lifes Twists]

You have to accept that every case of MLC is unique. Their are similarities, but no two work out the same. What you have to learn through all the lessons here is to just go on living your life and give her the room she needs to heal. Unfortunately, like a deep cut, there will be scares. the scares may be just a light blemish or they may be a huge ragged one. All you can do for her is to give her the time and patience to heal. Be available to help if she reaches out but don't expect anything in return. Let her see you continue to be a strong great father to your children.

If she reaches out to you, possibly asking you if you are happy answer her by asking if she wants to talk. When my ex asked me I said yes and no. Yes that I still had my daughters around me and that I could participate in their life. No, that I never wanted the divorce and that I had truely enjoyed being a husband. Even after that first talk don't expect or even want a sudden change. What I have seen is this usually ends up bad with the spouse running back into the tunnel. Take it slowly. Like I have said elsewhere it truely is like watching the grass grow. Enjoy the good moments when they come. Learn to read her enough to sense when she need space to process things. Continue to live your life and allow her the room she needs to heal.