I'm sure there aren't many on this board that will remember me. As you can see on this thread, it's been several years since I posted. This has been such a long journey. So here's the recap...my H's MLC started 10 years ago! Wow!!! He left me in Feb. 2007 and couldn't decide what it was he wanted so I pushed for a divorce thinking that would bring him to his senses. The D was final Dec. 2010 even though at the time we were somewhat back together at the time. My H left me again in May 2011. At that point, I was done and moved on with my life. In the summer of 2013, my then XH started to find excuses to have contact with me. I hesitately started seeing him again and tried not to have any expectations. We ended up spending more and more time together, then living together again and then, this past weekend, we were remarried.
Ten years ago when I came to this forum, I was a mess and in disbelief. It took a long time for me to listen to the advice I was given but, ultimately, so much of what l learned here became my mantra. What I learned here helped me gain the strength to move on. What I learned here helped me forgive him and myself.
It's been a long journey to get to this happier place we're at so, I'm doing my best to appreciate each day because there are no guarantees that tomorrow will be as happy as today. We all need to focus on our blessings even if they are sometimes hard to find. Even going through this experience was as disguised blessing because it helped find my strength and self worth. i was devistated when my husband left me but our relationship now seems to hav a much better foundation...I hope and pray it stays that way but, in the event it doesn't, I got pretty good at picking myself up and dusting myself off.
I wish everyone on this MLC journey peace, strength and the ability to find the silver lining.
