Hanging on and hoping for the best

[BillyHo]

Saturday night we were invited to a hayride at a friends house. She had asked me earlier if we were going together or not. I told her I she could take the kids and I would find something to do. She asked me a couple more times during the day if I was going and she said you know we can both go. I said no I was going to go out.

She came home from work and I was in the living room on my iPad. She came in and sat on the couch watching the show I had on which I know she has no interest in(chasing classic cars). After a few minutes of no interaction from me she asked what I was going to do tonight. I told her probably go shopping and see a movie. She asked if I was going with anybody and I said I don't think so.

Since I started pulling back, GAL and acting as if she has been coming toward me more and more. This time I won't get sucked back in. I hope I am doing the right things here. I'm not sure if she is involved with anyone or not but I do know she's moving out in 5 weeks so I assume following Sandis rules is the best way to go. My responses to her are short and to the point. I don't initiate any convos, TM or phone calls. I don't answer right away or even at all sometimes. Today at work she called me, i didn't answer. She texted me, I didn't get back right away so she called again about 15 min later and I picked up. She told me where she went shopping yesterday and every detail of where she was( I didn't ask). It's crazy how when you act like you don't care they keep trying to pull you back toward them even though they don't want you.

I am sure the whole moving out thing is weighing on her but that is her decision and is only making it easier for me to realize I have to be ready to GAL and work on me.