My kids were skyping me as it was happening. They called to tell me that they didn't want to be there. I told them to ask their mom if they could come Ronny house since she wasn't answering when I called. They said her door was locked and that they were also told that if they left their room before morning or even opened that they would be punished. That's when she barged in naked as she heard them talking to me.
So your kids were in bed, then? Ive told mine plenty of times that if they leave the room, they are going to get punished. It often times has nothing to do with being intimate, but more about them not going to bed.
Honestly, in my opinion, I think youre sticking your nose where it doesnt belong. Unfortunately, you only have 50% custody right now, and while you may take notes and add this to your file, I think suggesting they come to your house is out of bounds. I think it sets a bad precedent of you trying to "steal" some of W's time. Whats the limit when they can call you and say they want you to pick them up? You say you want your W and kids to have a good relationship, then I dont think giving them an out any time they arent having a good time is going to help with that.
I may be totally off base here, but I do have kids close to your kids ages. I dont really lock my door, but there are times when I am in my room with a closed door when they may be awake somewhere else in the house. I dont think theres a safety issue. It doesnt sound like neglect. It sounds like an issue that your W and your kids should be dealing with without you in the middle of it.
That said, I dont think what she is doing is RIGHT. I dont think its GOOD parenting. And I hate that your kids are going through this. That said, Id be pissed if my ex was calling me on my days at night to try to come pick up my kids.
