Hello everyone. I' m an old soul who is finally moving away from the Midlife thread and who is considering entering another serious relationship. It is not as easy as it once was. Anyway, I want to share my experience with you and probably have a few laugh at my expence. I am not seeing anyone at the moment but my radar is on. Hopefully, i' ll have a story to share soon!
Whoa whoa whoa girl.......you're trying to rush to the end of the story! You shouldn't be looking to enter a serious relationship. For Pete's sake you barely could have dated before you met your ex. Your goal right now should be to simply date. Shop around. Don't buy the first guy who comes along.
Sure, it's great to have a serious relationship as your long term goal. Just don't try to rush it.
I'd had a lot more dating experience before I met my ex. Still, after he left, it took me dating several different men before I got to the point that I was ready for a long term relationship. More importantly, I learned valuable things from each of those men, and it was because of those men that I was able to recognize the value in my current man.
Don't get ahead of yourself. Date and have fun. Learn a few things about yourself.
With all due respect kml, I am not the type to go from one to the other. Relationship is something I take very seriously. I hang around people, I study them, I do not need to date them in order to find out. I do not play the field. I do not believe in multiple subjects all at once. Online is NOT FOR ME. My life is not an episode of the bachelorette. That show repulse and disgust me. I have met 3 men in the past 7 years with who I saw potential. I have learned things from all 3. in those 3, only 1 really loved me. He became over possessive and over-bearing. I suffocated and I left. I ended all 3.
Before getting into any more relationships, you should read at least one of doodler's dating and relationship guide books:
- Skinny Dip Dating - Skinny Dipping for Singles Looking for that Special Someone - Skinny Dip Your Way to Relationship Success - Take the Plunge: How to Guide to Skinny Dipping Dates - Why Don't We Get Drunk and...Skinny Dip - Dating Etiquette for Skinny Dippers - Doodler's Guide to Exotic Skinny Dipping Locations - Skinny Dipping Strokes for New Relationship Folks - Improving Relationship Communication Through Skinny Dipping
None of the titles listed above have been published yet, but be on the lookout for them.
My writing career is off to a shaky start. I'm the only one who's MLC; all of the others are quite normal and sane. You'll like this forum, it's a good place.
Just be careful not to put too much pressure on your dating. It's right and proper to be looking for a great long-term relationship. Just don't be in such a rush to get there that you ignore red flags, or settle for less than you deserve.
And while dating can be a chore, you need to meet a lot of men to find the right one. That doesn't mean you have to sleep with them, or even get past a first coffee date. But you do have to meet enough men to have a statistical chance of meeting the right one.
And at least in my case, the dating process helped me figure out what was most important. I probably never would have dated my guy if I'd met him first, but by the time we met, I could recognize his true value.
Here is the reason why i am alone.. i read stories, i study people in this day and age and it seems like there is ALWAYS others on the side line. If you are interested in one, shouldn' t the one be the only ONE.. a couple is 2..not 3 4 or 5.. a relationship is 2 souls connecting, building..
