So sorry to hear about your problems in the M. When using that method of birth control, the W has to put all her trust in her H to not get her pregnant. Learning you thought it was "safe" and went ahead and done your thing without consulting with her first........could cause a multitude of negative emotions in her. What are the ages of you and your W?
From reading your post it sounds as if your W has some serious issues. Has she ever had therapy?
How did the two of you meet? How old was she when you M? Did something bad happen to her when she was growing up? Did you know about the six abortions before you M her?
IMHO, your biggest problem is not a SSM. I mean, it may seem to you it is, but you were having sex almost every day for 18 years........until a few months ago, right? Your W could have some emotional issues that will need professional therapy. She could also be in an emotional affair, even if that guy did not return the same affectional texts.
Things may be a little slower during the holidays, but if you'll stick with us, I think you will get support. Keep posting.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
