Wife has filed for divorce

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I made the mistake of having a discussion about the future last night. Not the future of our marriage but about our kids. This was after she informed me she was not coming to my parents Thanksgiving this weekend and I was not invited to her parents Thanksgiving, separate days, the kids will be at both.

Tried talking about how we need to be able to get along at least for the kids currently and so we can still work together raising them through High School and then supporting them through College. We may need to seek counseling to be able to do this, not counseling for marriage.

Her response was, what do you think I've been doing for the last 15 years is preparing our kids for the future. Now you're trying to make me feel guilty for the choices I'm currently making. It only makes me more angry when you say things like that. I'm only staying in this house because I have no where else to go.

My intentions in what I was saying was concern for my kids, not to make her feel guilty. We both want the best for our kids, my wife is a great mother and always has been, but we can't even discuss anything about the kids right now.

I guess I am best to not bring anything up about our relationship, the kids, ect. at this point and just let the divorce proceedings play out, we are a month in from her filing for divorce and have a pre-trial conference with the judge 01-10-17.

But avoiding/not talking to each other is just more of the same based on our past.