As for the trips, I traveled a lot before we were married.I would work just to afford travel and then Id go. I loved it. It made me so happy. After we got married, we never went anywhere. I always told him that it was a priority of mine and that it meant an incredible amount to me to be able to travel and he never understood it.
I started a separate account a long time ago and slowly put money in to it little by little so that we could afford to take a nice vacation some day without breaking the bank.
When all of this hit the fan, I needed an escape and I needed to get back to who I was before when I was doing things for me and was an independent person.
These trips aren't just me being lavish and throwing money all over the place. Its just part of my life philosophy. He knows that about me.
Traveling has given me back a sense of confidence and adventure that Ive been lacking for a really long time. I dont feel dependent on him for happiness, because I'm creating it for myself. I realize that I can't book a trip every month, this is the last one I'll go on until next summer. But it felt good to get it out of my system for now, visit some people who love me and go do something amazing and enjoy life.
Hopefully that makes more sense than me just blowing money and taking vacations left and right.
YOU dont think you're 'blowing money'. You have a logical plan. But the 'separate account' isnt yours and yours alone. Regardless of the source of the money, it is still a marital asset (as far as I know).
So if it's me, and my spouse was spending, say, $5000 of marital assets on things that I deemed unnecessary right before an impending divorce, Id be pissed.
Not saying that you should or shouldnt do it. But Im just guessing at why he might be being rude to you.
