Thanks Dark… great thought provoking post as usual. Seems like you nailed my feelings. I appreciate your words. I hate the friend zone and have zero desire of being friends after this… it’s not possible. I have thought I am entering the friend zone lately which probably is the reason for my coldness. Thanks SRT for also checking in. I will have to read about your situation.
I think WW is 60-70% in. She has researched places so she says. The other night late she text me that she had found places we could go and she would call them the next day if I was still interested in that. I said of course but let it go at that and wanted to see if she would actually follow through. It wasn’t mentioned again until dinner this weekend when WW said I didn’t sound enthused about it so she didn’t pursue. I just think it is pointless for me to force the MC issue. I only want to go if she wants to save this, otherwise I don’t see the point. The the whole ‘chemistry’ thing coming up this weekend again and threw me for a loop, I wanted to punch a wall.
Maybe it is time for a firm boundary like you say. She is complaining about of my lack of engagement lately. If it comes up again, I could say that I would love to spend more time with you but I don’t have any interest in being just friends and I feel like that is where we are headed. If she is interested in really working on things, then let’s do that and if not then let’s get the show on the road. I am 100% OK with divorce at this point.
