Chapter 4 - Acting As If

[bigybiz]

Well today I may have taken a step backwards. S10 was sick with W on Saturday. Sunday she drops him off and leaves for a company retreat. Despite we have been NC for months, she send 3 or 4 text messages wanting updates. I give short factual responses.

This am she calls wanting to speak to s10. Normally I am happy to hand over the phone. But this am S10 is not up yet (I let him sleep in as he was sick), the concrete truck is here pouring our new basement floor and there is a wheelbarrow in the kitchen, etc.

I tell her, what is going on - then I ask her when we are going to meet to discuss the outstanding issues from September, and I wanted to fill her in on our Christmas plans (which I'm sure she won't like).

I'm tired of when she wants something it's a priority - when I want something it's not.

She concedes and says we can meet briefly on Tues when she picks up the boys and/or a meeting on Wed.

So I may have backtracked a little. I'm tempted to send a text to apologize. What do you think?

I was not at my best. If I was dealing with a neighbor, friend, etc and that happened I would apologize.