In general, it sounds like things are going well, but you seem more focused on her than is healthy. Remember to make the changes for you.
The one thing that seemed odd was you telling her to smile. That seemed a bit controlling.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16