Wife has filed for divorce

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We have 3 boys ages 15, 13, 11. Our issues started when my wife was pregnant with our first son.

So help me understand, how did she possibly get pregnant with sons #2 and #3?
Have you been faithful ever since this first transgression?

Now 14 years later she does not forgive you?

Do I have the story right?

She stayed with me after the first transgression. However we never resolved our issues with the counseling we were doing and she never forgave me.

I had an EA a few years after our 3rd son was born which became a PA on 2 occasions before she found phone calls and questioned me about them. I ended it at that point. I have been faithful since then. She told me if anything ever happened again that we were done, but we never talked about it or resolved the situation. We have never been able to work through our issues, she has never forgiven me and I've never been able to build trust with her.