Somehow show her with actions that you do understand her pain and that you are truly remorseful for your past and that you can be a safe partner.
The problem is we were never able to work through our issues, she has never forgiven me but stayed with me "by sucking it up to keep our family together" is what she has told me. However now she is angry with everything and that she is in a place now where she feels like she gave up herself all these years and just wants out. She will only tell me I don't understand her pain, and I agree because from her point of view I don't understand what I have put her through. She won't let me in past her walls and she will not go to counseling with me or even by herself anymore and doesn't want to talk to me about anything. She tells me I don't understand but won't help me understand.
H:44 W:43 M:17 S:15 S:14 S:12 W mentions divorce 8/2015 W files divorce 10/2016 D will be final 4/2017 Living together & will for a while
