Hawker, I think not texting helps me too. It sets zero expectations rather than me doing just as you said and trying to "mind read".
J2, I have to get over that fear, and I do believe that letting go will work. I think she really has to lose all of me, friendship and all before she can even begin to sort out how she feels. I know that Friday when I saw her she was very confused; I think even more so than the Sunday before when she asked for a S with intent of D when she can afford it. She seemed so sure that Sunday, and so cold, and then Friday she was such a mess. If she thinks she can still have the best of both worlds she'll never have reason to make any decisions.
Me: 35 W: 32 MR: 2y T: 3.5y SS11 BD: 11/3/16 EA: 10/26/16 PA: 11/11/16 W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16 Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL I filed for D: 12/14/16 D-day: 3/10/17