She's gone. Living in the now.

[Vanilla]

Yes Scrant, she is.

And your WW likely has this big thought that you are in deep pain because of her and are on the back burner at all times.

I would like to issue you with a big warning, when it crosses her addled brain it no longer is and that her instant (mix with water) family has changed and she is outer cirole then you may face rage and manipulation. Including hoovering and sweet cycle.

Be very careful about happy FB stuff and possibly block her access.

It is my opinion that this is dangerous territory in sitches like yours with distant waywards. D an angry vengeful spouse with high conflict manipulative intent is costly.

If you read my sitch you will see use of the legal system in extremis.

Just saying. Cut the risk.

V