Hi Coly, I'm glad you had a great day yesterday. Maybe you and your D could do some volunteer dog walking for a little while and see how you feel?

As for your H, one of the challenges for all of us is to let go of needing to have our needs met by our spouses. He isn't in touch because he really doesn't have that to offer now. And if we poke and prod, it just makes things worse.

Maybe just say to yourself - next week will be an H free week. I'll just let him toss in the wind and I'll do some nice things for me. If he's in touch, no problem - but otherwise, just go about your business.

I understand how you feel about the holidays and I do think the first year has to be 'got through' rather than enjoyed. But I hope you will make some nice plans with friends and family and get through it as best you can. We of course will be here too.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend :-) x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus