I really admire how long you have stood and the antics you have gone through. Well done.

Maybe next time agree with H and ask when he would like to talk in private?
Regardless I am happy to read his antics do not leave a lasting affect on you or your mood. Well done.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together