I agree.Not bending over backwards was a good choice. Ye had a good time and you let H know you won't put yourself out "just" to meet him.

You are doing great
Keep going as you are.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together