I belong here, and hope I can stay

[Steady9]

I feel similar
I "pretend" my W and I split. She lives down the street and time has gone by and we started hanging out again....and she started spending the night etc.

I use this exercise to say what would I do. My W is the best she has been in years. So I like spending time with her .. and would hate for her to go out with someone else....

Everyone can cheat and lie.... or it is more "normal" than I ever thought possible

I struggle or at least think about it often...lies and the sex

But W is great now..... and making it up to me so to speak....

I try to remember she is not perfect. I used to think so. The other exercise I do is think about-- what if my daughter ran away and did stupid things and then came home -- I would take care of her ....( I know it is not the same ) but it is something I do to humanize my W... or more accurately, help me not to judge her... accept what it is - boundaries of course.

I have never been unfaithful... but I have thought about it...so I try to understand