pam - thank you pam, i think i am finally in a good place. i am not really positive that things have changed all that much. what i am positive about is how i feel about everything. that truly is different.

bets - dang, it's so much better for you to focus on the positives - it just plays with your mind sometimes but i sure would rather spend all day looking for the good rather then spending it living the bad ya know? thanks for stopping by

lostlove - i had a smile on my face when i read your post - all i could see in my minds eye was my mother telling me when i was young "is it time for an attitude adjustment" - which usually meant a spanking or restriction - lol - yes, i did have an attitude adjustment, but this was for the good. thanks for stopping by my thread

deb - my ya ya sister - i am so sorry about the turn of events for you - but i know you will be ok. things always have a way of working out. your just stuck in this negative land that you cannot see it yet, but you will. luv ya woman!!!

t2 - hehe - ya ya - thanks girl, for being the rock that you are

opt - time and distance, the healer of all wounds. yes, i do believe this was a catalyst for better things, if not in our r, then for me. thanks for stopping by!

totite - at peace! LOL - i gotta chuckle out of that!! let's see, i was in newcomers for about two months before i was "coerced" to move to piecing - but only NOW do i really feel like i am finally piecing for real. just a slight change of attitude in myself made all the difference in the world - thank you for stopping by

holdingon - ah, my helicopter pilot!!! even while i was away my friend, i felt you were still up there directing me thru the forest. what a pal you are! thank you for stopping by!!!

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POSITIVES

1) hubby came home from work early yesterday, slow day, and wanted him and i to run out and look at computers (time to upgrade) - what this shows me is that he values my opinion for one thing, and for another he just wanted to spend some time with me (computer shopping is usually HIS thing)

2) we had a short but shared conversation about his spirituality and the congregation we go to. lots of good and insightful words were passed. i do believe that he is working "inside" himself

3) we came home from our bible study last night and looked at homes online in our area. he is ready to consider buying again, and in this area because (and i quote) - "i want all my children to finish school in THIS DISTRIC" - this tells me he is planning a future as a FAMILY

JOURNALING

my heart aches for my friend deb. what a slimy way her husband had of letting her know about the counter proposal. that is just downright mean. my prayers were for you all last night - i prayed that you had the strength to go to court today, with head held high

ever get to feeling overwhelmed? feeling that way now. not about my r, but about my house. while in california my sister and her other daughter were building new homes. i got to help my sister move in the sunday before i came home.

it depressed me in a way but in another way it really motivated me to come home and do something about my own house. i have been a fly lady fanatic since i got home, but it seems i have only scratched the surface.

i really need to get focused and not get overwhelmed because that is when things don't get done. i have to remember that "anyone can do anything for 15 minutes"

i will be formatting some goals and posting them here in regards to the house. not because it has anything to do with my r (well maybe a little ) but because this is a place i come to daily

will be gone most of the day, everyone please try to have a blessed day