Don't be hard on yourself, you didn't do this. Yep, you can't control her you can only control your emotions and how you react to your W.
My W was very remorseful from the beginning, she still says she is now but she continues to do what she wants and I think that nullifies it as well...lol...like she is trying to ease her guilt...but that is ok...she is going to do what she needs to do and I will do the same.
Hope your move goes well, it is great that you are getting all the perks of moving in with your parents, you will also get that support system!!
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017