I will try my hardest to stick to business only when I talk to P.
So my mother told me story about a couple she knows very well. It happened 25 years ago. The H dropped a separation agreement on the breakfast table and told W to sign it as they were now separating. W had no idea anything was wrong in the M. They had just celebrated W's 50th with a huge party and were supposed to go away together for a romantic holiday a few days later. W flipped as expected and H forced her to move out of the house. The first year H was mean mean mean (very unlike him because he is a really gentle pleasant guy), the second year they had a few dates which ended in the bedroom but he was still pushing the divorce through. Finally, in the third year, he decided to drop the divorce and W took a year to decide if she wanted to move back in with him after all that had happened. They are still happily married today. I spoke to both W and then H yesterday. W's story was so similar to mine. H said the first year he didn't miss W at all but the second year was hell. He said he never ever wants to go through such a crisis again and is so happy it is behind him and that his W was willing to take him back. H was 54 when his crisis started...same age as mine! I know there are no guarantees but still comforting to hear a happy ending. Three years separation...such a long time though! xx
