MLC H at age 32, maybe single mum with a toddler S

[Maybe]

Thanks j20a00g. Nevertheless R or sex with a trans is a big can of worms...

H was here today, asking me all sort of questions about what we did and who we saw. I try not to say too much, but I was being too honest because I had a long day at work. He leaned over to play with S when I was holding him. If anyone looked in the window we would of looked so normal as a family. Then he got a message and I said, maybe you should go now... He left when we started dinner. Again seem like he didn't want to go.

30 mins later he called, saying that he might come back tonight to borrow our oven for his art project. I said it's all right if it's before 8. He straight away went from nice to swearing off his head. He did not like my "rule". He said to give a yes or no answer so I said no. We hang up, he texted "thanks for nothing". Surprisingly I didn't get angry and took the bait to keep arguing.

I think he's a long way from getting through the tunnel. But I will pay my own back for doing a good job detaching. I would love to give him a hug and tell him everything will be fine. But I know it will work the opposite way. I thank DR for teaching me to be solution oriented!!