It is normal to try to understand her, but she is driven by emotion not logic. So for get logical reasoning.
If you can focus on you and improving your life, including joy and happiness I don't see any reason for you to do the work for her.
Find your true self. Become that man.
Your W is not going to snap out of this at least not soon. So why not dedicate from now until the end of the year on YOU. Let her go, ad much ad you can, completely ideally. Anytime you find yourself thinking of her and ye, change those thoughts to other stuff especially plans and actions about you
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
