W and I went to our latest discernment counseling session and she decided that she isn't comfortable living together and she needs to move out. This wasn't a total shock to me but I have to say I was very impressed with my reaction to it. I calmly said I understand and that I would support her decision if it was going to help her figure things out. Later that day when we were talking she told me that she was surprised by the way I was acting about the whole thing. This is a big 180 for me because I would have freaked out a few months ago. I don't think I am fully detached but I think that using all that I am learning here has prepared me somewhat for this type of thing.
The next day she showed me a budget she worked out. She had some unrealistic expectations as to how much financial help I was going to give her. We talked about it and I think we figured something out that is fair. TBH I hate to see her leave but I do think at this point it's necessary. Since BD things haven't progressed at all with us living together. I am in a way looking forward to having the house to myself. The worst part is only being with my boys 1/2 of the time.
I'm not sure what she is dealing with or if there is a OM. I do know that I am making significant changes and I am really liking the man I am becoming. Any tips for the separation would be appreciated. I have taken control of all the finances so that's one thing. She isn't leaving until after the holidays (I kind of wish it was sooner) so I guess I'll just do LRT until she's moved out.
Me:42 W:37 M:18 T:23 3S: 4,7,10 EA 6/16 ILYBNILWY 7/16 9/16 separate BR 10/16 Discernment Counseling She's moving out 1/17
