Struggling

[fightin]

Blu, thank you so much for such an insightful post! Your wisdom and encouragement are greatly appreciated.

She is moving super fast indeed! Yes, I'm thankful I recognize it too, it is frustrating, but almost funny, how irritated shes gets when I don't just sit down with her and chat like we're pals. Thanks for the advice on the book, I will definitely check it out. It certainly can't hurt.

She can't see the forest for the trees that's for sure and ridiculous is a good description. I'm concerned for him too; he needs consistency and stability just as you said and this is far from that. She may not move the OW in fully just yet. I hope she waits a while to introduce her S to her for sure. I do know that any night he isn't with my W she does plan on having the OW stay here so that my W doesn't have to drive 45 min to work from the OW's house. So the OW would be living here 50/50 at least. Thankfully his dad is great and does provide him consistency and stability, and I will still be around 2-3 times a month to spend time with him.

She doesn't even text me anymore so she isn't asking where I'm at. I just know she's asked more than once if she can still check on me and see how I'm doing, but considering she's cut off all contact and so have I at this point (other than the business of separating) I don't think she's interested anymore in keeping in touch. I didn't play by her rules so she's going to take her ball, go home, and ignore me. Which is just fine by me! Gives the me the distance and time to work on myself without her as a distraction.

I do expect her world to come crashing down at some point, and I do expect once that happens she'll just expect me to be there waiting in the wings, but even if I'm still open to a R with her, I'm sure as heck not going to let her know it. She will have a lot of work to do herself first.

Thanks again, and I will absolutely keep working on myself and keep her at a distance.