Cherry. Just trying to get on with life

[PsySara]

You're doing fantastic, Cherry. You are showing your son what kind of woman he should respect and admire. I can sympathize with a WH sudddenly going from super dad to absent. At the height of WH's affair in April he would sometimes go days without texting or calling to speak to the kids. They were very confused and would ask where he was. My daughter is the most sensitive and would have this sad look on her face when asking about her father.

At this moment she is curled up in bed falling asleep while he cuddles her. I believe even if we never reached piecing he still would have come back into their lives. He does love his kids, he just got lost for a time. I think your WH will eventually find his way back to the kids. When he offers to buy you something for cravings, act as if. Smile warmly and tell him how you would apppreciate that, just DON'T expect him to follow through. If he later mumbles an apology then be light and "fine." Tell him it's okay and you managed something on your own. I did this a few times and it was a bit of a 180 for me, normally I would be angry and resentful, I would hold a grudge. I think it made WH realize how far he had wandered.