I don't even think you should ask her anything. No questions. Have zero expectations. See this only as more info you are gathering.

-Listen only
-Validate when necessary
-Thank her for opening up
-You end conversation
-Only If she tries to engage you in conversation or ask you questions, then (and only then) you can tell her you have a lot to think about now. Thank her again for opening up. End convo. Go as you were.

This has so many benefits. 1. You are showing her your patience and 180s. 2. You will not appear needy or eager. 3. You can actually take the time to think/process what she tells you. 4. You regain some power in this relationship. 5. You value yourself more than just to let her her jump back into your life the moments she decides. You are worth more than that.

Does this make more sense?

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela